#32: Setting Boundaries That Prevent StressMay 28, 2023
A key source of stress comes from being overrun by others’ needs. Having healthy boundaries can help set parameters for you, those you love, and people who have influence over you. Setting boundaries prevents stress because they create barriers that protect your time, emotions, and personal space.
Setting boundaries can feel selfish when others’ needs seem very important. It can feel wrong to say no to something that might make things harder for someone else. It’s still important to be able to set firm and consistent boundaries if you want to avoid stress and keep a joyful spirit.
Key points about setting boundaries
✔Boundaries should be clear. Whatever boundary you set, it should be very clear. Sharing what the line in the sand is and sometimes sharing why helps others know exactly where you stand and what they can expect.
✔Boundaries should be healthy. Your boundaries should come from a healthy place where your joy and well-being are the primary reason for setting limits. Setting a boundary for passive-aggressive reasons or to cause pain or harm won’t win you any friends or preserve your own joy.
✔Boundaries should be firm. Your boundaries need to be non-negotiable. Think your boundaries through beforehand. Make sure they are legal, logical, and ethical. Be certain they serve your highest interest and stick to them. From time to time, people may want you to compromise or vacate your boundaries. However, the more you hold to them, the less likely someone will be to try to manipulate you.
The most important thing about setting boundaries is being consistent. When people are consistent with their limits, it is clear what is permitted and what is off-limits. Being wishy-washy about what you allow confuses people and sends the message that sometimes you will and sometimes you won’t. This might keep people pushing the limits, frustrating both of you.
There may be times when your boundaries cause you to feel guilty. Be sure to remember why you have them and that they contribute to your mental health, keep you from being overwhelmed and overburdened, and allow you to balance all the areas of your life. Others may not fully know what you need in order to manage the multiple aspects of your life. Setting firm, healthy boundaries makes it possible for you to do the best with the time and resources you have without feeling guilty.
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